Children develop stress and wounds in the relationship with friends as well as in the relationship with parents. They may feel stressed and wounded when a good
friend of theirs become close to other children. Then, they refuse to play with him or her making their friend develop stress and wounds. They may reconcile with
the help of other friends easily when they understand what happened. Children also get stressed and wounded in the relationship with teachers. They may like to
change classes as the new semester starts or they may feel nervous about it.
When children experience relational problems, it is important for adults to try to understand children's point of view instead of judging the situation from adults'
point of view. Your child may feel hurt when you say, "You should get along with everyone. No one will like you if you complain all the time." The child may even
decide not to stay close to anyone.
When children in the phase of adaptation to relationships are asked to write names of close friends, some may write more than 5 or more, but others may not
write any since they don't think they have any friend. Boys may get stressed for a moment, but forget about it when they get immersed into something fun. However,
girls store wounds or negative feelings in memory when they cannot think of close friends for the survey. Especially in the beginning of the semester, the teacher
can play a crucial role for encouraging children to form and maintain healthy relationships with friends.