Wounds in mimind develop in women or girls when their thought standards are violated. Girls under 13 years old can develop wounds in mimind when they
have problems in close relationships. The mother says, "Your sister has good grades at school, but you don't. You must try harder to study." It is only a natural
expression of concern with good intention from the mother's point of view, but it may hurt the girl's feelings. The girl can develop psychological problems not
because she doesn't have good grades but because she doesn't have a good relationship with her mother, who praises only her sister. When the girl thinks that
her mother likes only her sister, she begins to develop problems with her sister, too.
Girls in this phase easily get hurt when their mother or their teacher doesn't seem to care about them. Parents' divorce also affects children differently depending
on their developmental phases. It may have greater negative effect when children are under 13 years old. Children have to sever the relationship with one parent,
who used to be very close with them, and it may cause great wounds in girls. Most cases of children's depression from the age 5 through 13 are caused by parents'
divorce. Both boys and girls in the phase of the adaptation to relationships go through great confusion when parents get a divorce, but girls are more likely to be affected more since girls accumulate negative emotions as wounds in mimind and boys do not.