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Thought standards and conflicts

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Date 2023-03-09

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     It takes at least two people to develop conflicts. Conflicts occur when you and your counterparty disagree or collide. It is important to
understand why conflicts occur in human relationships. Conflicts occur when thought standards of the two people are different. When two
people interact and they are interested in each other, they naturally apply their own thought standards in the relationship. They consider their 
own thought standards are right and may think that the other's thought standards are wrong. We all admit that everyone's thought standards 
can be different in the conscious, but we tend to perceive that out own thought standards are right when the counterparty has different thought
standards. Then, conflicts occur naturally.

     Women tend to think that the counterparty does not like them when conflicts occur. Men tend to perceive stress in conflict situations. 

Moods and feelings that are generated inside their own mind leads them to believe that the counterparty is wrong causing conflicts. 

Not many people understand this mechanism of conflict development. Conflicts occur more in close relationships since they are interested 

in each other more. People who are not interested in each other rarely develop conflicts. 

     Many married couples suffer from conflicts due to personality difference, which actually worked as a factor that made them like each 

other. People are all different and personality difference is natural and essential for pursuing happiness in relationships. In this sense, 

conflicts should not be considered only as a negative factor in relationships. Conflicts develop only when the two parties are interested in

each other. It doesn't mean that they don't like each other or their relationship has problems. 

     Many parents tend to impose their own thought standards on their children. However, children are likely to have different thought 

standards from their parents. Conflicts necessarily occur when parents and children think that their thought standards are right and the

counterparty's thought standards are wrong. Parents try to impose their thought standards on their children since they care about children.

Conflicts continue or worsen since they don't understand about the root cause even when they love each other.

     When the two parties suffer from serious conflicts, it indicates that they love each other very much. Conflicts in relationships lead to 

stress and wounds in mind. When conflicts are not resolved or worsen, people suffer from negative emotions. When conflicts are resolved 

in the right way, people can generate happiness. Conflicts can be toxin or medicine depending on how they are addressed.

     The absence of conflicts can be interpreted in two ways. One is when parties involved are not interested in each other, and the 

other is when one party is suppressing emotions and not expressing thoughts and feelings. Absence of conflicts does not necessarily 

indicates that the relationship is a happy one. Having conflicts with interest in each other may be better than indifference in many close

relationships. It is only that not understanding the mechanism of conflicts causes women's wounds and men's stress which make many 

people suffer.

     Indifference is worse than conflicts. Indifference of parents is one of the reasons why teenagers run away from home. Parents who are 

too busy to check for children and scold them are considered not to be interested in children. Parents who are 45 years old with unique life

memories of 45 years cannot have the same thought standards with children who are 15 years old with unique life memories of 15 years. 

They must be very different. When parents care about children, they necessarily develop conflicts since thought standards are different 

between parents and children. Parents must understand and admit that every one's thought standards are different.

     One's thought standards are formed based on one's memory of life experiences. Conflicts occur when we assume others' thoughts 

and feelings based on our own thought standards. We think that the other party must think and feel this way or that way based on our own

thoughts and feelings. There is a very low possibility that your assumption is right. 



 



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