standards. Then, conflicts occur naturally.
Women tend to think that the counterparty does not like them when conflicts occur. Men tend to perceive stress in conflict situations.
Moods and feelings that are generated inside their own mind leads them to believe that the counterparty is wrong causing conflicts.
Not many people understand this mechanism of conflict development. Conflicts occur more in close relationships since they are interested
in each other more. People who are not interested in each other rarely develop conflicts.
Many married couples suffer from conflicts due to personality difference, which actually worked as a factor that made them like each
other. People are all different and personality difference is natural and essential for pursuing happiness in relationships. In this sense,
conflicts should not be considered only as a negative factor in relationships. Conflicts develop only when the two parties are interested in
each other. It doesn't mean that they don't like each other or their relationship has problems.
Many parents tend to impose their own thought standards on their children. However, children are likely to have different thought
standards from their parents. Conflicts necessarily occur when parents and children think that their thought standards are right and the
counterparty's thought standards are wrong. Parents try to impose their thought standards on their children since they care about children.
Conflicts continue or worsen since they don't understand about the root cause even when they love each other.
When the two parties suffer from serious conflicts, it indicates that they love each other very much. Conflicts in relationships lead to
stress and wounds in mind. When conflicts are not resolved or worsen, people suffer from negative emotions. When conflicts are resolved
in the right way, people can generate happiness. Conflicts can be toxin or medicine depending on how they are addressed.
The absence of conflicts can be interpreted in two ways. One is when parties involved are not interested in each other, and the
other is when one party is suppressing emotions and not expressing thoughts and feelings. Absence of conflicts does not necessarily
indicates that the relationship is a happy one. Having conflicts with interest in each other may be better than indifference in many close
relationships. It is only that not understanding the mechanism of conflicts causes women's wounds and men's stress which make many
people suffer.
Indifference is worse than conflicts. Indifference of parents is one of the reasons why teenagers run away from home. Parents who are
too busy to check for children and scold them are considered not to be interested in children. Parents who are 45 years old with unique life
memories of 45 years cannot have the same thought standards with children who are 15 years old with unique life memories of 15 years.
They must be very different. When parents care about children, they necessarily develop conflicts since thought standards are different
between parents and children. Parents must understand and admit that every one's thought standards are different.
One's thought standards are formed based on one's memory of life experiences. Conflicts occur when we assume others' thoughts
and feelings based on our own thought standards. We think that the other party must think and feel this way or that way based on our own
thoughts and feelings. There is a very low possibility that your assumption is right.